Like loss, illness or other types of adversities...
And it’s not a good feeling. Worse, it’s a difficult one to articulate…
But articulate I will!
'Cause I have lost my equilibrium a few times in my life, I have a few friends going through some “stuff” as we speak and the tool I am about to provide may come in handy for all.
The “Tool:”
Remember “Welcome Back Kotter?” The Sweathogs? Remember the excuse notes from Epstein’s mother? The ones that said stuff like “Dear Mr. Kotter. Please excuse Juan’s abs. Signed Epstein’s Mother.” Well, when I am off kilter, I imagine what I would like an “excuse” note from Epstein’s mother to say:
Dear Mr. Kotter or anyone who expects anything from [the “Excused Party”] in life:
Please excuse the “Excused Party” from all activities and responsibilities because [this is where you fill in the blank with the concerns that are eating up your focus”].
Though the Excused Party is still “technically” required to wake up in the morning and do what she is supposed to do…”show up” for motherhood, “show up” for work...show up" to play all the roles she normally plays in life…she can’t ‘cause it doesn’t “feel right.”
Please give the Excused Party a “pass” if she forgets a birthday, answers a question wrong at work, complains about body aches she never had before or, instead of giving you sympathy, looks at you with a blank stare when you complain about being stuck at
home waiting for a furniture delivery. The Excused Party really still loves you and hopes you will continue to be her friend, child, sister, boss [whatever] despite her inability to be there for you at that moment. Signed Epstein’s Mother.
P.S. One never knows how long this loss of “equilibrium” will last, so please keep this note on file until somehow, the Excused Party, whomever they may be, can take a deep breath and feel like herself again.
P.S.S. Please note, the Excused Party doesn’t like the feeling of being “off kilter” and she, despite what it looks like, is trying her best to ‘fix this condition” as quickly as possible. [End Note]
Might this come in handy for you? Feel free to "cut and paste" and personalize and retain for future use,
OR....
Think about this: the people in your life who matter to you most, don’t usually need the note. They don’t need to give you one or get one from you…and the rest of the people…well, they are just “who and what they are” and you have to decide how to manage your feelings about whether you care if they “get you” or not. Right?
To my peeps: Marge is doing well.
And to my pals who may use the Note:
May you get your balance back quickly and with little pain.
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